Can the child and mother be with his surname? Husband: "This will make me feel that the child is not mine..." My wife was so upset that she was so sad that she was so sad!

Since ancient times, children have always had their father's surname, and everyone thought it was common. It was not until the common sense that someone began to discuss the question of "who is the child's surname?" Legally, as long as the couple agrees, there is no problem with the child from his father or mother's surname.

I thought it was a natural thing to do with my father's surname. Until more and more people started asking "Why?", everyone thought in detail, yes, the child was born by the mother in a life-changing way, and it also had half of the mother's genes. Why is the child's surname irrelevant to the mother?

{9 Chapter 4 discusses the child's surname from the mother. It is expected that her husband's reply is heartbreaking

A mother who has been pregnant for 30 weeks posted a message on Dcard with "Who is the surname of Bao Bao?", saying that one day she suddenly had doubts about the child's surname from the father. She believes that women need to bear the changes and pressures of miscarriage, childbirth, career planning, etc. when pregnant. Why aren't they qualified to let Bao Bao off her surname?

So, she listed 4 reasons why babies should be from their mother's surname and wanted to discuss with her husband. Unexpectedly, her husband used the macho idea of being unappropriate, and said every word she said made her feel heartbroken.

1. Career development was forced to stop (paid leave and childbearing leave)

The former PO husband heard this reason and said with a ridiculous reply that girls could have money on holidays, but they were not given a salary cut, which was already very happy. But in fact, there are many jobs because when you are pregnant, you use various means to force you to work. Even if you have paid leave, you will be forced to suspend your career. Men can get a baby and don’t need to stop working.

2. Various bone pains during pregnancy

When pregnancy, hormone secretion will separate the ejaculation bones and prepare for production. Women are really depressed when they are pregnant and have to endure this change in their bodies. In the future, they still don’t know whether their bones will return to their original position.

3. Previously, the problem of embryo development was not known whether it was sperm or egg problem. Most doctors have helped mothers to do education. The embryo will be eliminated naturally and stop developing, but it will not be miscarried naturally. Surgery is required. I was subjected to general anesthesia for the first time in my life. After surgery, my pants were all covered with blood, and they were all borne by the original PO.

4. The responsibility is more than that of my husband.

Whether it is a house loan or a baby sales, the original PO will be paid half of it. Other people's husbands would at least comfort them and say, "Don't worry, wives, little be more nourished than husband." But the former PO husband said twice that he had no money. On the contrary, the original PO's annual salary is greater than that of her husband, and she has never complained about the majority of her family's opening sales.

I believe that the father's surname is traditional, and women should not ask for more erratic

After listening to his wife's words, the husband actually replied: Which child from a normal family has the surname of mother? Generally, it is not the kind of family that has problems. Will the single family have a surname with mother? She even said that she was making no mistake.

The most incredible thing is that the original PO husband believes that if the child really has the surname of mother, it will make him feel that the child is not his, so he will not want to be responsible for raising him. This attitude made the original PO feel quite shocked.

If the child is given the father's surname, the husband and wife will support him together; if the child is given the mother's surname, he will ask the mother to support him alone. Such a magical logic makes the original PO feel dissatisfied with her husband, and she thinks that the husband is a vested interest in the traditional father's society and is unwilling to rationally discuss a rationality that has already gained advantages.

Both childbirth and marriage require dual-way contributions. There is no regulation from the father's surname or the mother's surname. Of course, there is no such thing as this because people used to do so, so it must be the case now. The three problems of the original PO husband also made most netizens rush to see it. They think that if they encounter other situations in the future, they may lead to more problems.

As a mother, have you ever thought about why your child must have a father's surname?

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